Stop Wishing, Start Doing!

Rick Osborn
Mar 26
3 min read

We’ve all been there—caught in a cycle of wishing for change, dreaming of a better life, or hoping for success to magically fall into our laps. But here’s the truth: wishing doesn’t make things happen. Action does. As a life coach, I’ve seen time and again that the difference between those who achieve their goals and those who don’t boils down to one thing—taking consistent, purposeful steps forward. If you’re ready to stop wishing and start doing, here are some practical steps to turn your dreams into reality.

1. Get Clear on What You Want

Vague wishes lead to vague results. Instead of saying, “I wish I were happier,” define what happiness looks like for you. Is it a new career? Stronger relationships? Better health? Write down your goal in specific, measurable terms. For example: “I want to lose 15 pounds by July” or “I want to land a remote job in marketing within six months.” Clarity is your roadmap—without it, you’re just wandering.

2. Break It Down Into Bite-Sized Steps

Big dreams can feel overwhelming, which is why so many people stay stuck in the wishing phase. The trick is to break your goal into small, manageable actions. Want to write a book? Start with 200 words a day. Dreaming of running a marathon? Begin with a 10-minute jog three times a week. Small steps build momentum, and momentum kills procrastination.

3. Schedule It Like It’s Non-Negotiable

Wishing happens in your head, but doing happens on your calendar. Treat your action steps like appointments with your future self. Block out time—whether it’s 15 minutes or an hour—and stick to it. If you wouldn’t skip a meeting with your boss, don’t skip a meeting with your goals. Consistency turns intention into progress.

4. Ditch the Excuses

“I don’t have time.” “I’m not ready.” “What if I fail?” Excuses are the fuel of inaction. The next time one pops up, challenge it. No time? Find 10 minutes by cutting out mindless scrolling. Not ready? Start anyway—perfection is a myth. Afraid of failure? Good—that means you’re stretching yourself. Action thrives when you stop negotiating with your doubts.

5. Surround Yourself With Doers

You’re the average of the people you spend the most time with. That mindset will rub off if you’re surrounded by chronic wishers who complain but never act. Seek out people who inspire you—friends, mentors, or even online communities—who are already doing what you want to do. Their energy is contagious, and they’ll hold you accountable.

6. Celebrate the Wins (Even the Tiny Ones)

Every step forward deserves recognition. Finished your first workout? Celebrate. Sent that scary email? Pat yourself on the back. Rewarding yourself reinforces the habit of doing. It doesn’t have to be big—a coffee, a quick dance break, or a moment of gratitude works. The point is to train your brain to associate action with positivity.

7. Adjust as You Go

Doing isn’t about being rigid—it’s about staying in motion. If something isn’t working, tweak it. Hit a roadblock? Find a detour. The goal isn’t to follow a perfect plan; it’s to keep moving toward your vision. Flexibility keeps you from getting stuck again.

The Power of Starting Today

Here’s the kicker: you don’t need to wait for the “right moment” to stop wishing and start doing. That moment is now. Pick one goal, choose one small step, and take it before the day ends. Send the application. Lace up your shoes. Write the first sentence. Action begets action, and before you know it, you’ll look back and realize you’ve built the life you once only wished for.