Crisis among the masses is rampant. I’m not even talking about the life crushing perilous, heart rending tragedies that occur all over the world. I’m talking about small, irritating, yet paralyzing crises that occur in our everyday lives. Almost daily, I encounter different people – clients, friends, acquaintances and strangers alike, most of who share a common, often unseen problem…
Boundary Amorphic Disorder – “B.A.D.”
“Boundary Amorphic Disorder” or “B.A.D.” is a condition that I’ve labeled myself. It simply means “having no clearly defined boundaries in one’s life.” Perhaps it’s an oversimplification of more complex underlying issues plaguing many, but nevertheless, I believe “B.A.D.” to be a fundamental cause of pain, heartache, problem and crisis for many people. In fact, when coaching people in crisis, one of the first questions that I often ask is “What are your boundaries?” Sadly, most people have never even considered the thought. Many don’t even know what a boundary is or how it should apply to one’s life.
Here’s my point: People who do not have clearly defined, healthy boundaries, have problems – usually a lot of them.
With that in mind, here’s a question for you to ponder for today –
Do you have “B.A.D.?” Or, if you do have boundaries, what are they and how firmly are they in place in your life?
In my next blog, I’ll discuss boundaries in more detail and discuss why having them in place will help you stay safe, sane, healthy and happy. Meanwhile, feel free to leave a comment or question below.